HOW DOES YOUR SOUL FEEL WITH THOSE AROUND ABOUT YOU?
Are you comfortable in your own space, within your own way of life – enjoying those spurts of life experiences with friends, but equally enjoying the time you spend with your own soul? Are you comfortable and joyous in the company you are keeping?
Do you feel excited at those hourly meet ups for breakfast, brunch, lunch, cinema, theatre, adventure, work-outs, dance nights out, social celebrations for birthdays, achievements, weddings, functions and fun times within groups of other like-minded friends?
Have you a SPECIAL BEST FRIEND?
Two friends who can appreciate each other, trust each other, recognising each other’s downfalls, weaknesses, fears, and support each other. Two friends who can support, inspire, surprise, awaken, and enjoy with laughter the times together.
Have you someone who is willing to share in the joy of your success and triumph hand in hand with you, at your every achievement? Do you have the number one best friend who is at the end of a phone, for a midnight chat to help ease your pain, or first thing to offer you insight and guidance? Are your texts flowing back and forth with updates and information that you know they will be happy to receive?
Does your best friend keep you updated with all that is happening in their life? More importantly, are they interested in what is happening in yours? Do they have time to do so, are they stretched because of family demands, work schedules, or illness? You may have several good friends, all with equal talents and abilities, differing qualities of their personalities who are just the best to be around. Are you a good friend to them?
Do you prefer a hub of such friends who are all equally held in high regard by you, and vice versa? Or are you setting your boundaries to allow only those in who are suitably in tune with your core values?
What can you do today to honour your friendships?
Are you authentic in your friendships? What element of your friendship to another needs a revisit? A refresh?
TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS – RECOGNISING THE SIGNS
Are you starving for a friendship so much that you are willing to put up with their subtle control?
Are you feeling so low in your esteem that you have to put up with their abuse?
Are you so needy, that you need to cling onto them to refrain from feeling alone.
Are you constantly bombarded with their criticism?
Do you feel threatened by their constant sneering, stealing of your ideas and feigning their own lifestyle?
Their passive aggressive jibes have bruised and broken you.
Are you walking on eggshells?
Is your self worth high, when they are in a good mood?
Are you anxious if there is too much time between your meet ups?
Are you subtly isolated and made to feel awkward if you wish to spend time with other friends?
Is your self worth rapidly disappearing down a toxic drain.
Have you been betrayed by them, forgiven them, and then they repeat the deceit?
How important is such a friendship to you? That you would jeopardise your health? Surrender your freedom!
Crucifying as it may be for you to realise the investment you are oozing out from yourself into a relationship that just doesn’t bring the same return for your energy, has perhaps gone as far as it can go. Especially given the constraints and drama, the friend has dropped upon you.. joy stolen from you, pain caused to you.
Is it is time to discard? Are you ready to cease being manipulated?
Stop clinging onto what is outworn, tattered, destructive or jaded.
Create the space in which new energy of new friendships can be poured.
A new optimism for you socially and intellectually, financially and emotionally.
Now is the time to release all toxic people from your life.
Someone out there is searching for a friend – perhaps you will be best friends with each other and respect the time and energy, travel and adventure, trust and money you so freely are willing to invest.
Are you in need of FRIENDSHIP THERAPY?
If you are in need of discarding, and overcoming such a toxic disruption to your happiness.
Are you angry? Frustrated? So upset, it’s causes you to become depressed?
Why are you unable to let go of someone on a friendship level if the communication and contact with them is harmful?
What keeps you tied up and willing to abuse yourself?
Answer honestly –
Are you your own best friend?
IS’NT IT TIME YOU BECAME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND?!
Hope this has given you food for thought at the start of this next week ahead.
What are you struggling with in your relationship with a friend/friends and are you interested in my coaching you through difficulties into ease of communication or breaking free?
Delighted to help you, get in touch. x
Love as always,
Susan x x